--- title: The Gottman View | Alexander Elguren description: Looking at popular culture through the Gottman Method lens! --- [Skip to the main content.](https://info.gottman.com/view/author/alexander-elguren#main-content) [![New Gottman Logo from eps](https://info.gottman.com/hubfs/New%20Gottman%20Logo%20from%20eps.svg "New Gottman Logo from eps")](https://www.gottman.com) [![Gottman New Logo Transparent](https://info.gottman.com/hubfs/Gottman%20New%20Logo%20Transparent.svg "Gottman New Logo Transparent")](https://www.gottman.com) - [Couples](https://www.gottman.com/couples/) - [Adviser](https://www.gottman.com/gottman-relationship-adviser/) - [Conflict](https://www.gottman.com/gottman-relationship-adviser-conflict/) - [Intimacy](https://www.gottman.com/gottman-relationship-adviser-intimacy/) - [Love](https://www.gottman.com/gottman-relationship-adviser-love/) - [Parents](https://www.gottman.com/parenting/) - [Singles](https://www.gottman.com/gottman-for-singles/) - [Professionals](https://www.gottman.com/professionals/) - [Blog](https://www.gottman.com/blog/) Toggle Menu Toggle Menu - [Couples *Toggle Menu*](https://www.gottman.com/couples/) - [Adviser](https://www.gottman.com/gottman-relationship-adviser/) - [Conflict](https://www.gottman.com/gottman-relationship-adviser-conflict/) - [Intimacy](https://www.gottman.com/gottman-relationship-adviser-intimacy/) - [Love](https://www.gottman.com/gottman-relationship-adviser-love/) - [Parents](https://www.gottman.com/parenting/) - [Singles](https://www.gottman.com/gottman-for-singles/) - [Professionals](https://www.gottman.com/professionals/) - [Blog](https://www.gottman.com/blog/) [*Facebook*](https://info.gottman.com/view/author/alexander-elguren#0) [*Instagram*](https://info.gottman.com/view/author/alexander-elguren#0) [*LinkedIn*](https://info.gottman.com/view/author/alexander-elguren#0) [*Twitter*](https://info.gottman.com/view/author/alexander-elguren#0) [*Youtube*](https://info.gottman.com/view/author/alexander-elguren#0) [*Medium*](https://info.gottman.com/view/author/alexander-elguren#0) # Alexander Elguren [![](https://info.gottman.com/hubfs/pike.png)](https://info.gottman.com/view/universal-language-of-love) 2 min read #### [Universal Language of Love](https://info.gottman.com/view/universal-language-of-love) [Alexander Elguren:](https://info.gottman.com/view/author/alexander-elguren) August 7, 2023 Star Trek: Strange New Worlds review, Episode 209: “Subspace Rhapsody” In a universe dictated by physics and law, a Starship's crew discovered that the most uncharted territory might just lie within the human heart. 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