Lekker Niksen

We enjoyed this article on BBC News about "Niksen". Niksen, although not a new activity, has long been embraced as a way of life in The Netherlands, even though it hasn't always been met with positive perceptions. Niksen means "doing nothing," and is a way to create time to let the mind wander. You might find it surprising, but this wellness trend has proven that engaging in activities of apparent idleness is actually beneficial, particularly when viewed through the lens of the Gottman Method. So, let's delve deeper into this fascinating concept!

When was the last time you truly embraced the art of doing nothing? And I don't mean binge-watching your favorite TV show, mindlessly scrolling through social media, or gossiping. This is about those rare moments with no agenda, obligations, or purpose other than to simply revel in the joy of the present moment.

Do you find it a challenge to recall a moment of true luxury like this? And if so, would you dare admit to it? It is surprisingly difficult to make time for doing nothing, but even more so to fully embrace it without guilt or embarrassment.

In today's fast-paced world, there is a growing desire for a haven of calm and tranquility where one can escape from the burdens of stress and anxiety. This longing for solace and peace is what makes the idea of Niksen gain international recognition.

The Gottman Method, designed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, is a research-backed approach to cultivating thriving relationships. Supported by 50 years of scientific research, the Gottman Method serves as a reliable framework for couples and families to enhance their connections. Niksen is also about spending quality time with each other without a specific goal in mind, and Gottman science also underscores the importance of moments of connection. It encourages families and couples alike to savor their time together without feeling the need to constantly achieve something. Gottman reminds us that experiencing joy, fun, and adventure can work wonders for our relationships.

The Gottman Method is a wonderful companion for Niksen, as both techniques encourage you to invest time and effort in understanding your partner’s needs, empathizing, and deepening emotional connection. However, Niksen takes it a step further by emphasizing the importance of sitting still together, simply being present without the need to exert too much effort.

Studies have actually shown that engaging in Niksen can have a positive impact on productivity and focus. This is because it provides a much-needed mental break, allowing our minds to recharge and refocus. This aligns with the fundamental principle of The Gottman Method, which focuses on effectively managing conflicts rather than hastily seeking resolution. Pausing for a moment during intense discussions can offer individuals a renewed perspective and a fresh sense of understanding.

"Lekker Niksen" expands the expression to denote "deliciously not doing anything". This phrase sums up the Dutch attitude and lifestyle towards work and leisure. This lifestyle is in line with the Gottman Method, which focuses on creating shared meaning between couples and families.

Conclusion

Both Niksen and the Gottman Method place a strong emphasis on stepping away from the external pressures of the world in order to fully embrace the beauty of the present moment and cherish our time with loved ones. Now is the perfect opportunity to explore ways in which we can integrate the concept of "doing little" and the principles of relationship sciences into our everyday lives. "Doing little," or doing small things often is a way to build relationships with deep connections that can last a lifetime.

Finding balance is crucial, not only within ourselves but also in our relationships and the wider world. By understanding and implementing the Gottman Method in our daily relationships, we can lead happier lives. We can embrace the benefits of the Niksen philosophy and the Gottman Method by nurturing the foundation of our relationships and navigating life with a broader perspective. This path will lead us towards peace, love, and deeper connections.

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