Your Partner Can’t Read Your Mind: How to Ask for What You Need

Your partner can’t read your mind.

This might seem obvious, yet many couples fall into the trap of expecting their partners to just "know" what they need. The reality is, for a relationship to thrive, open and honest communication is crucial.

Whether you’re actively fighting with your partner or not, your needs must be communicated in order to be met.

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Your Partner Can’t Read Your Mind:

How to Ask for What You Need

Download a printable exercise worksheet designed to help you learn to communicate your needs.