The Sound Relationship House: Create Shared Meaning

The top floor of the Sound Relationship House, Create Shared Meaning, functions much like the foundation of Building Love Maps, except on this level, you build and understand an inner world as a couple.

Creating shared meaning is all about understanding important visions, narratives, myths, habits, and metaphors about your relationship. These Rituals of Connection define your life together.

The Gottmans think of it as developing a culture of symbols and rituals that express who you are as a team. It can be as simple as getting pizza from the place you both love every Friday night and as intricate as the unique way you celebrate birthdays. These Rituals of Connection define you as a unit, and you create them together.

What rituals do you and your partner share? How can you continue to create shared meaning together?

Look for the final part of The Sound Relationship House, Trust and Commitment, in the next Marriage Minute!

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• Enriching Your Marriage by Creating Shared Meaning
• What is The Sound Relationship House?

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