Is Your Relationship Over?

How to Know When it’s Time to Go

Download an exercise designed to help you determine if your relationship has a positive or negative “Story of Us”.

 

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Is Your Relationship Over? 

One major indicator that a relationship is headed for disaster is what Dr. Gottman calls a negative “Story of Us”. When the “Story of Us” is positive, a couple has a strong buffer against conflict and they tend to focus on their partner’s positive qualities. A negative “Story of Us” primes your brain to assume the worst about your partner. 

Once the story of your relationship is negative, it is very difficult to reverse and may mean that it’s time to end the relationship. 

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