Let Your Love Shine
How to Make Your Relationship Work will teach you core Gottman relationship principles like The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and The Sound Relationship House, so you can take intentional steps towards knowing each other and deepening your friendship to secure a happy, lasting connection.
Includes16 Proven Ways to Make Your Relationship Work
- Gentle Start-up
- Use “I” Statements
- Complain Without Blame
- Make and Accept Repair Attempts
- Show the Respect You Expect
- Focus On Positive Qualities Your Partner Has
- Practice Gratitude Every Day
- Show Affection and Commitment
- Accept Responsibility for Your Actions
- Share the Load With Your Partner
- Learn How to Listen
- Make Intentional Changes in Behavior
- Stop and Take a Break
- Focus On Self-Soothing
- Improve Communication
- Turn Towards Your Partner
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Frequently Asked Questions
Common questions answered below. More help: Gottman Support Center.
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What is the Gottman Relationship Adviser?
The Adviser is an unparalleled approach to relationship wellness. Measure your relationship health with a research-based self-assessment, analyze key areas of your partnership to identify your strengths and weaknesses, then start a tailored, step-by-step digital program proven to heal and strengthen your connection. Improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere.
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What is the Gottman Relationship Coach?
The Gottman Relationship Coach is a self-guided program based on the popular Gottman Method. the Coach is an inspiring and educational multimedia experience created and designed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman to enhance and transform the wellbeing of relationships. Participants access research-based relationship skill-building tools in a series of interactive videos, exercises, and card decks designed to inspire healthy communication and deeper connection.
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What is the difference between the Gottman Relationship Adviser and the Coach programs?
Whereas the Gottman Relationship Coach products address specific areas of your relationship you select, the Gottman Relationship Adviser is a complete relationship wellness program. The Adviser takes the guesswork out of improving your relationship by combining assessment and solutions all in one place. Start with a checkup to find out what you can improve, then follow a personalized, step-by-step plan for your relationship.
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How does the Gottman Relationship Adviser analyze and explain my relationship?
The Adviser uses the Sound Relationship House Theory, created by world-renowned psychologists Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Sound Relationship House is a foundational concept within Gottman Method and has been used successfully with hundreds of thousands of couples all over the world to help them understand and improve their relationships.
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If I have purchased the Gottman Assessment or a Coach program, can I still experience the Gottman Relationship Adviser?
Yes, customers can benefit from taking the Gottman Relationship Adviser. The Gottman Relationship Adviser will give you a full snapshot of the state of your relationship based on a detailed self-assessment, then provides recommendations for improvement. You will also get credit for your original purchase at checkout, just login before you check out.
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Do I have to take the Gottman Relationship Adviser with my partner?
No, you have the option to take the Gottman Relationship Adviser with or without your partner. You can take the Gottman Relationship Adviser alone to learn about yourself and your relationship, or you can invite your partner to take the Adviser as well, even after starting your own self-assessment. After you log in and invite your partner, they can access the Relationship Adviser by registering on Gottman Connect. Once they register, they will have the option to complete the self-assessment to receive their own custom relationship results..
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Will my partner and I receive separate results?
Yes, you and your partner complete your own self-assessment and receive separate results based on your unique answers.
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What does the assessment portion of the Gottman Relationship Adviser measure?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can help you gain insight into your overall relationship health, friendship and intimacy, romance, sex, and passion, how you manage conflict, your shared meaning, trust, commitment, and more.
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What if my partner and I decide we need to see a therapist after taking the Gottman Relationship Adviser?
You can find a Gottman-trained therapist on The Gottman Referral Network. This Network of experienced clinicians are certified the Gottman Method-based relationship-building techniques and can use your assessments and work with the Adviser or Coaches to help you get on the pathway to a healthy, long-lasting relationship more quickly.